My fiance's sister has been living with us for the last 6 months. She doesn't work she has a felony on her record. She doesn't have a car. She always uses my car. She doesn't pay for rent or food. She lives off her dads social security. Her dad is currently in Laos. Her brother, My fiance is basically the one supporting her. Before she moved into our place she lived in Seattle and we barely saw her down in olympia where we live, she only came down on weekends here and there. And now all of a sudden she moved into our house and the only reason she said she wanted to live here is because she can use my car. REALLY? I'm just so frustrated #1. I have no alone time with my fiance, his sister sits right next to us on the couch, #2 My fiance always invites her out with us. #3. She is sometimes rude and makes you feel stupid. And whenever I try and say something about his sister to him he gets angry saying I'm talking crap about his sister, and i am not talking about her, He got mad at me for saying his sister made me feel stupid and sometimes hurt my feelings,and what he always says is that's how his sister is shes a loud mouth and very straight forward and not to take it seriously. He always backs her up even when shes in the wrong, any little thing I say about his sister he gets defensive. Oh and another thing all his sister does is talk about people. Its like I know if it came down to it he would always choose his sisters side over me his FUTURE WIFE His sister is 25 years old. And his sister and i were best friends in high school but its a totally different friendship now that I am about to marry her brother. I am just soo frustrated. My fiance and I had a better relationship when it was just me and him living together. And another thing that pisses me off is EVERYTIME we get into an argument he always has to broadcast it to his sister and talk about me. Any suggestions to how I should handle this?
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1 :
dump his *ss and move you and car out of reach it's only going to get worse
2 :
I'd be incredibly frustrated, too. If he is always going to choose his sister over you, then let him have her, and I would be gone. There's millions of guys out there, I definitely wouldn't choose one who sides with his sister over me. Not to mention all the other little issues you mentioned - how you are being used, how you have no alone time, etc. I could be wrong, but I would think you're already heading for divorce down the road anyway, if this is how life is going to be. I don't know any woman who would go for a guy who loves his sister more than her!
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Yes, it's very understandable that you feel frustrated about this living arrangement. I would tell him that I'm really proud of him having such love for his sister, but that I can't share his love on a daily basis with her. Remember the saying that blood is thicker than water... Asians really believe in that saying. There can only be one lady in the house, so if I were you I would pack my bags and move out. Don't threaten- just do it! By the way- I'm Asian- so I know what I'm talking about. Once you are out, wait and see, if he shows some sign of regret... and then either move on or get back together. We Asians also believe that true love will find a way.
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